Self care? Self obsession?
Social media shows us what we want to see, for instance, if you love to travel, your Instagram reels and posts that you see on the search page is all about wanderlust. Similarly, a lot of us leverage our social media platforms for some positive motivation. It’s fantastic, isn’t it?
Self-care is absolutely crucial and a necessity for all of us. We need to learn to respect ourselves for who we are, pamper ourselves with a treat every once in a while. But since “too much” of something is too bad, this is also applicable when it comes to the concept of SELF.
We need to absolutely ponder over this, because lately the concept of self worth is flawed & is directing us towards being a narcissist!
I’ll do whatever seems right to “ME”:
Actually, you need to do the right thing, not what is right for you or easy for you. Also, you can’t do things which will offend & hurt others.
Every time you do something you don’t want, you kill a part of yourself.
Ok, don’t listen to your mom, don’t cook or clean your room,live in a mess & die starving.
I’m who I’m, I don’t need your approval:
Honey, there is a difference between owning yourself and being toxic. Owning yourself involves accepting our mistakes & amending to be better and do good. Being toxic is acting as you please and expect people to be nice to you regardless of your toxicity.
You are perfect the way you are, you don’t need to change yourself for anyone or anything:
Not supporting any kind of abuse. Stepping away from violence, those who use it for their convenience, the only thing constant in life is change, you change physically and mentally every day! so evolve baby, be your best self!
Follow your heart and trust your gut:
Your gut and your heart can be wrong and it will only destroy you. Watch out.
Cut off those who do not bring you peace:
No one can bring you peace at all times, if you start cutting people off, might as well leave for Mars now! Respect people as they are and maintain a healthy relationship, set boundaries. If the world ends tomorrow & you board the Noah’s ark, have a relationship in a way that you can sit with them without burning in your own hate & anger. [not encouraging any form of violence, of course report and take charge if you are facing any].
You don’t owe anything to anyone:
We are all social animals, that’s how we were created. To live in groups, to interact with each other, live together as a community and respect each other. Of course you owe them respect, love, understanding, a call back, apology when you are wrong, clarification and communication when things aren’t perfect.
STOP normalising self obsessive behaviour and preaching it to the kids at young age. We want well-civilised people in our society, not mannerless brats. This wrong concept of self worth is breaking communities and households, people are now alone and depressed, you live life once, make it pleasant for yourself and those around you.
I leave you here with :
“I don’t care what you think unless it’s about me.”Kurt Cobain
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October 6, 2021 @ 6:50 pm
This was quite an interesting post, but I think the topic is too layered to have a black and white answer. Your retorts are definitely rational and logical especially about the mainstream culture among our youth, but certain things can be best assessed and judged by a qualified psychiatrist. Especially the concluding quote by Kurt Cobain. #MyFriendAlexa #TheTinaEdit
October 6, 2021 @ 7:42 pm
Of course, there is always a grey area but again, giving others a benefit of doubt helps. Also, I’m writing this post keeping in mind those set of people & younger generation these days who justify their heedless & spoilt behaviour in the name of self-care. 🙂 people with mental disorder should seek professional help. Thanks for the comment 🙂
October 6, 2021 @ 7:33 pm
I was living to see something like this !!! What an exceptional article. Young generations are being taught narcissistic behavior in the name of self respect and self love. This is unacceptable and totally wrong. This needs to stop. Thank you for writing this.
October 7, 2021 @ 3:23 am
Love the way you put across your points, but somewhere down the line patience and letting go are two aspects I added in my life that made me live happily.
October 7, 2021 @ 4:31 am
I am not a supporter of “I’m the best” kind of pop psychology. No one is perfect anyway. It’s better to learn humility and a bit of modesty to boot if one is to accommodate oneself into the given environs.
October 7, 2021 @ 7:08 pm
Interesting post.i agree with your points.
October 7, 2021 @ 5:28 pm
An interesting post. Love the snark. All said and done, get ready to own up to the consequences too by taking it off the tangent. You are absolutely right, we don’t want mannerless brats.
October 8, 2021 @ 12:44 pm
Couldn’t agree more on the point that owning yourself and being toxic are two different things. Loved your take on self-worth, an assessment of which is exaggerated by what we consume through pop culture!
October 9, 2021 @ 7:55 am
I loved this post, different and unique on self worth. It is very important to be aware about turning self-love to something narcissist.
October 12, 2021 @ 5:17 pm
I have written about ikigai and talks about the same, self worth and passion that you want. lovely post