Not so nice! Or wait, is it?
Niceness is OVERRATED. Well, don’t you think so? We live in a world, when someone is nice to us, we can’t digest it. We tend to scrutinize the nice act by breaking it down to 100 pieces & trying to find the intend behind the act. Or we just end up thinking why is he being nice to me? Wait, it doesn’t stop here. People tend to repay niceness by either “considering the good guy as a weakling & by ill-treating him” or “considering them evil with hidden motives”.
There is nothing fishy about goodness. In fact, there is no apocalypse right now, because of good people! If someone may have mistreated you, you need to learn from the experience & move on, you can’t scar yourself based on bad experiences(learn more about it here). Honestly, there is an explanation for almost everything, but this mindset of goodness being unacceptable is something I can’t comprehend. Pause & reflect: Where does this thought process come from? Do you think that goodness doesn’t exist? Or people can’t be kind?
What is beyond acceptable is the new ideology which is trending on every social media platform: “DON’T BE TOO NICE”. Firstly, you don’t want to acknowledge any goodness that exists, overlook good people & now you preach “don’t be nice”. See, if this is your ideology & if we were in the world of Harry Potter, seems to me, you are a death eater #TheArmyofDarkLord #LordVoldemort. (P.S. : I’m a proud potter head , thanks to my BFF). We don’t support the evil, so why do we speak like one?
“The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference.”― Elie Wiesel
You need to change the way you think & know that people, for most of the times are nice without any reason (why would someone hold the door for you in an elevator while you rush towards it? why would someone care to give you a smile when they see you?). Try to be more like them. Do acts of goodness, go out of the way to help people, CARE & stop being indifferent. Repay goodness with nothing but kindness & preach kindness. We want the world to be a happy place with happy faces and not the other way round. I would like to leave you here with
It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.– Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets
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September 26, 2021 @ 1:13 pm
Some of the Harry Potter quotes are so profound, they stick with you through years! This one is one of them
September 26, 2021 @ 2:50 pm
Maybe cuz it’s common to experience that niceness for a hidden agenda, and that’s why ‘dudh ka jala chaanch bhi phook ke peeta’. But that shouldn’t be the end point of the experience. We let things affect us in a certain way and make a choice so love how you ended with Dumbledore’a quote
Potterhead forever baby 🙌🏻
September 26, 2021 @ 4:25 pm
This article is excellent!!!!!!! RE read it twice. People are used to mean behavior, that’s why they cannot embrace niceness. It’s them, not the nice people who are at loss.
September 28, 2021 @ 4:56 am
I totally agree! We always doubt intentions may be coz we have faced so much mean-ness in our everyday life.
September 26, 2021 @ 7:02 pm
it is a deep post. but i got your point. nicely portrayed though.
September 27, 2021 @ 4:41 am
It is sad to see niceness so underrated nowadays! I love the Potter quote. Let us all be nice to one another and make the world a better place. Thank you for this heartwarming post.
September 27, 2021 @ 6:45 am
Very true. We have become cynical. When someone is nice to us, we begin having doubts. It is also about us. Are we nice because we want something?
September 27, 2021 @ 8:06 am
We don’t support evil then why do we speak like one. Very good words to ponder on. Love it!
September 27, 2021 @ 8:21 am
Agreeee with youuu totally! Nicely explained and great quotes! 👏🏻👏🏻 I wish people werr naive in this case of niceness even more. The hearts would be more simple and more happy! 💕
September 27, 2021 @ 10:12 am
The last quote you shared is beautiful. Niceness is considered a weakness, which is why a lot of people stop being nice.
September 27, 2021 @ 11:34 am
Don’t be too nice 😁but this article is truly a true nice read.
September 27, 2021 @ 4:13 pm
Totally agree with you. On point!! Just loved the post.
September 27, 2021 @ 4:31 pm
I avoid being too nice.It has gotten me in trouble multiple times.Its our choices that really define us.
September 27, 2021 @ 5:51 pm
Very true. When someone is nice to us, we begin having doubts. But I have had bad experience with all those nice persons . May be thats why
September 27, 2021 @ 11:24 pm
True. There is always a doubt when we see someone is so nice to us. Fortunately I have found many strangers who were nice to me. Nice post.
October 5, 2021 @ 4:28 pm
It’s always a choice.We are more than just a sum of our abilities. Great read I must say.
September 28, 2021 @ 11:41 am
true, It make you feel nice when someone give a positive sign.
September 28, 2021 @ 11:57 am
So true. I think too much negativity around us has ushered in these times where we are suspicious of everyone. Really liked the quote by Elie Wiesel, surely it is indifference that is the opposite of everything. Loved reading your post!
September 28, 2021 @ 7:20 pm
This is such a perfectly penned article. Loved reading it and its essence
September 29, 2021 @ 8:50 am
Sometimes strangers are nice to us and we happen to conncet with them too.
September 30, 2021 @ 4:00 am
September 30, 2021 @ 5:08 am
Love your post. Like you, I don’t get why people find it difficult to believe in goodness, but easily believe in evil. We need to change that mentality for a better world.
September 30, 2021 @ 6:38 am
What a nice thought. Kindness is very much needed. Thanks for writing this.
September 30, 2021 @ 11:13 am
Changing mindset is the biggest change we can bring to our lives. Very well expressed post.
September 30, 2021 @ 2:11 pm
It’s a lovely post, thanks for writing this. People should know that kindness still exists in this world and there are kind people who do good things for others without any intention. They are just like that only.
October 1, 2021 @ 2:12 pm
True. We get sceptical when we meet someone who is nice to us without a reason. Maybe its come from years of being engrained into us.
October 1, 2021 @ 3:39 pm
I think I is good to be nice until it doesn’t hurt us. Loved the quotes and the way you have used them #LifemarblesRead
October 6, 2021 @ 5:19 am
I don’t judge people who are nice to me or challenge the reasons for their care and concern. Having said that, I have always been taken for granted by people, and many times people have taken advantage of being nice to them. So, after I turned 40, I have stopped being too nice.
October 6, 2021 @ 11:06 am
Such a beautiful post – full of positivity. In these times, we really need such reminders of goodness around.
October 6, 2021 @ 11:27 am
I have been trying to inculcate this habbit in me. Being in-different has the power to take us a long way in staying calm and conflict free
October 6, 2021 @ 3:49 pm
In a world where you can be anything, Be Nice. This is one of my favourite quotes.
It was lovely reading this post.