Self care? Self obsession?

Social media shows us what we want to see, for instance, if you love to travel, your Instagram reels and posts that you see on the search page is all about wanderlust. Similarly, a lot of us leverage our social media platforms for some positive motivation. It’s fantastic, isn’t it? 

Self-care is absolutely crucial and a necessity for all of us. We need to learn to respect ourselves for who we are, pamper ourselves with a treat every once in a while. But since “too much” of something is too bad, this is also applicable when it comes to the concept of SELF.

We need to absolutely ponder over this, because lately the concept of self worth is flawed & is directing us towards being a narcissist!

I’ll do whatever seems right to “ME”:

Actually, you need to do the right thing, not what is right for you or easy for you. Also, you can’t do things which will offend & hurt others. 

Every time you do something you don’t want, you kill a part of yourself.   
Ok, don’t listen to your mom, don’t cook or clean your room,live in a mess & die starving.

I’m who I’m, I don’t need your approval:

Honey, there is a difference  between owning yourself and being toxic. Owning yourself involves accepting our mistakes & amending to be better and do good. Being toxic is acting as you please and  expect people to be nice to you regardless of your toxicity.

You are perfect the way you are, you don’t need to change yourself for anyone or anything:

Not supporting any kind of abuse. Stepping away from violence, those who use it for their convenience, the only thing constant in life is change, you change physically and mentally every day! so evolve baby, be your best self! 

Follow your heart and trust your gut:

Your gut and your heart can be wrong and it will only destroy you. Watch out.

Cut off  those who do not bring  you peace:

No one can bring you peace at all times, if you start cutting people off, might as well leave for Mars now! Respect people as they are and maintain a healthy relationship, set boundaries. If the world ends tomorrow & you board the Noah’s ark, have a relationship in a way that you can sit with them without burning in your own hate & anger. [not encouraging any form of violence, of course report and take charge if you are facing any].

You don’t owe anything to anyone:

We are all social animals, that’s how we were created. To live in groups, to interact with each other, live together as a community and respect each other. Of course you owe them respect, love, understanding, a call back, apology when you are wrong, clarification and communication when things aren’t perfect. 

STOP normalising self obsessive behaviour and preaching it to the kids at young age. We want well-civilised people in our society, not mannerless brats. This wrong concept of self worth is breaking communities and households, people are now alone and depressed, you live life once, make it pleasant for yourself and those around you.

I leave you here with :

“I don’t care what you think unless it’s about me.”

Kurt Cobain

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